This comes very close to describing how I often feel:

And it explains how I feel as a bi-female...I am feeling a little embattled as my well-meaning straight friends are kind of like, "it sucks...but less for you, because you can 'pass' and live in a Northern state." And it's like, yes, I can pass...but that's an ugly thing you're saying if you think about it in your pleas for compromise and slow movement.
-JennyO

Close, but not quite - because I have to admit to a lot of anger. Not just anger at straight, conservative america, that wants to make anyone or anything they can't understand just go away, but anger at gay america, that looks down their noses at me, because I can "pass". Because the person I happen to be in love with is a man, I don't count. I'm in a transitional phase. Or I'm just being trendy.

So, I'm disdained as a queer, or disdained as not being queer enough. This is the legacy of the gay rights movement - a land where I'm more comfortable coming out to anyone straight that I am outing myself to a gay man or woman.... because I won't be taken seriously.

Congratulations, folks.